All of us want healthy relationships, but most of us need guidance to make our relationships work. Seeking out help and advice when you are struggling with issues, like relationship troubles, is the right decision. You don’t have to do it alone! General coaching from an experienced mentor is the key to a successful relationship. Here are some tips to get you started:
1. Don’t lose thoughtfulness and patience.
As we keep adding months and years to our relationships, we tend to start getting lazy and slink into proverbial sweatpants. We start losing the initial gentleness, thoughtfulness, patience, and understanding. The general effort we made toward our partner begins to lack. If you are feeling the same happening with you, recall your relationship’s first year and do the things that you used to do back then for your partner.
2. Be vocal about what you want.
Most of us assume that after a couple of years, our partner will know us well enough, and we won’t have to ask for what we want. When this assumption is made high expectations are set, which can just as quickly be broken. The unmet expectations then leave us wondering if our partner is right for us and if we share a meaningful connection. Remember, being vocal about your wants extends to both sexual and emotional wants.
3. Ask more than “How was your day?”
After having a long day, we usually don’t want to put effort into anything, sometimes even our relationships. Often, we tend to stick to the standard question, “How was your day?” But most of us, including your partner, are so used to hearing that question that we reflexively respond with just the bare minimum, “Fine, And yours?” The small ways in which you connect with your partner define your relationship. When you seek guidance from an expert in the form of general coaching, you will be told to ask follow-up questions like “What made you smile today?” or “Did you face any challenge in your work?”
4. Understand, even if you do not agree.
This is an easy concept, but hard to implement. Conversations can quickly become arguments when we want our significant other to change their opinion or want them to admit we were right. Consider conversations as opportunities to understand your partner’s perspective. That will help you avoid lingering frustration and have an interesting dialogue instead.
If you are looking for general coaching or mentoring to have a healthy relationship, get in touch with Bhavna’s Wellness Group.
